How to Give Your Graduate (or Soon to Be Senior) the Best Start: Three Steps for Success
STEP ONE: Be a good coach
As the parent of a teen on the verge of adulthood, you are in the prime of the coaching years. You can motivate, encourage, challenge and advise, but you can’t force feed. You can help your son or daughter articulate what they believe, challenge their thinking, remind them of the “basics” they learned during their earlier years, but the time has come for them to truly own their beliefs. Through that process, you can provide a safe environment to wrestle with and even question the values they learned as children. The key to your influence at this point is in maintaining a strong relationship and frequent, open dialogue.
STEP TWO: Give perspective amid their big questions
Making the transition into adulthood, your son or daughter will face big questions like: What kind of work should I do? Where should I live? What should I do with my life? The most important thing you can do during this season is to direct them back to overarching Biblical principles. The last words of King David to his son Solomon (in 1 Chronicles 28:9) provide a model for parents advising emerging adults: “And you, my son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and ser ve him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the LORD searches ever y heart and understands ever y motive behind the thoughts. If you seek him, he will be found by you; but if you forsake him, he will reject you forever.”
In the midst of the practical advice parents may offer on setting goals, choosing a job, finding a spouse and so forth, we must also elevate God’s principles such as…
• “Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain” (Psalm 127:1).
• “Lose your life to find it” (Luke 9:23-24).
• “Number your days aright” (Psalm 90:12).
• “Seek first the kingdom of God” (Matthew 6:33).
STEP THREE: Give a vision for marriage and family
Parents today often go to extremes to help their children get ready for college and the workforce, but don’t know exactly what they can do when it comes to preparing them for the more important work of marriage and family. While a small minority will be called to life-long celibate service, most are called to marriage and family (Genesis 2:18-24). We sometimes overlook how much marriage and family serve as the organizing structure of life and the prime arena for our spiritual development. Even if the culture discourages you from taking an active role in this transition, you have a vital part to play in helping your children “leave and cleave.” Actively modeling a Christian family is the foundation, and daily prayer for your child’s future spouse and children is an important commitment. But our highly sexualized and anti-marriage culture also makes it essential that you provide guidance and oversight to help your children form strong families as a key emphasis of their launch into adulthood.
Boundless.org webzine provides young adults with a community of mentors and fellow believers throughout the season of transition from high school to star ting a family.
Life on the Edge by Dr. James Dobson offers Biblical principles to help young adults face “crucial questions about identity, education, marriage, career, God’s will” and more.
First Christian Church Resources
First Christian’s Student and Family Ministries exists to lead students to honor God with their whole life. For more information about student ministry, visit firstchristian.com/students or for our young adult ministry, visit firstchristian.com/young-adults.
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