To Anyone Caring for an Aging Loved One
Long before an aging spouse or parent takes their final breath you will experience an underlying grief as you observe their loss of vitality, strength, mental faculties and other traits that make them the person you love. Mixed with the physical and emotional exhaustion this season can bring – you may even feel yourself slipping into depression. Seek help to avoid allowing these feelings to overtake you, but recognize that such emotions are normal and testify to just how valuable the person you are losing has been.
The most common duties caregivers handle are transportation, grocery shopping, household chores, help with medications, and assistance with bathing and dressing. Despite the humble nature of such activities, the majority of caregivers use words like “rewarding” and “happy” to describe the care giving process. Clearly, God gives a special grace to those who humble themselves to serve the aging and ailing.
The care giving child gradually becomes the parent. The care giving spouse is no longer able to rely on her husband’s strength or wife’s support. Primary caregivers can also encounter strained relationships with other members of the family who may expect input on or question difficult decisions. In one way or another, expect these relationships to change as a loved one’s health deteriorates.
For those who are married and raising their own children, caring for an aging loved one can add tremendous stress to the family dynamic. There is less time, less marital energy, less patience with childhood irresponsibility, and less ability to give everyone the attention they need. That’s why it is important to involve the whole family in the care giving experience. (Even young children can hold a hand or give a hug!) Everyone will need God’s special grace, so be intentional about giving them opportunities to participate in what can be described as the ultimate family service project. If you are in the midst of this season, our prayer is that God will give you the strength and grace needed to face the prolonged grief and quiet sacrifices required.
“Dear Lord—please come alongside those of us called to care for an aging or dying loved one. Help us to “be Jesus” like we’ve never been before! Amen.”
Complete Guide to Caring for Aging Loved Ones from Focus on the Family offers a financial planning book that presents concepts in an easy-to-understand format. Do you know if you have enough and how much is enough?
www.CarePages.com is a free online tool used to give status updates to friends and family when a loved one is facing a sickness or injury. Those across the country can go to the site and get updates day or night without interrupting the loved one’s rest or adding to the caregivers “call me” list. It can also be used to inform local friends and family of current needs.
First Christian Church Resources
As a church, we want to come through in care and prayer for you during difficult times. Beyond reaching out to your Life Group and those you know at FCC, we have a hospital visit team who will come to pray and talk with you if a loved one is in a local hospital. To be put on our visitation list please, contact us or give us a call at 330-456-2600.
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