Set These Five Priorities to Help Your Marriage Last

No one plans to become a broken family or a miserable couple. We marry because we yearn for a life-long, thriving relationship. So, how can believers become intentional about building a God-honoring marriage?


PRIORITY ONE: Discover God’s Design for Marriage

Research demonstrates the long-term value of making time now for marriage education classes or premarital counseling. Those efforts go even further when you supplement them by spending time with an older married couple whose relationship you admire.


PRIORITY TWO: Commit to a Covenant Marriage

Today’s civil marriages are much like business contracts—easy to get into and easy to get out of. God’s covenant with His people was a promise to remain eternally faithful even if His people weren’t faithful in return. In covenant marriage, both spouses are committed for a lifetime—in sickness and health, for better or worse. They don’t threaten divorce or consider it as an option.


PRIORITY THREE: Pursue a Passionate Marriage

Couples aren’t supposed to just stick it out and find a way to make their marriages survive. God calls us to pursue a passionate, thriving marriage. The Song of Solomon expresses the kind of love, joy and celebration God designed for marriage. That passion is built on much more than infatuation and sexual desire. It is rooted in the physical, emotional and spiritual intimacy God created couples to experience as a foretaste of the eternal unity, communion and intimacy we can have with God.


PRIORITY FOUR: Become Heroic in Marriage

Christ made the ultimate sacrifice to rescue humanity. Writing to the Ephesians, Paul connected Christ’s sacrifice directly to marriage: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25) and “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands” (Ephesians 5:24). In other words, mutual submission to one another requires giving up our own interests to heroically serve the other person.


PRIORITY FIVE: Fight for Your Marriage

Every couple will mess up. Too often, however, they also choose to give up. Throughout scripture, God fights for His relationship with His people, remaining faithful in the face of unfaithfulness. He forgives again and again. No couple can avoid strife and arguments, but we can avoid giving the “devil a foothold” in our marriages by keeping short accounts and quickly restoring the relationship regardless of what happens.


Recommended Reading

It Starts At Home by Kurt Bruner and Steve Stroope explains why marriage is a key path of our spiritual formation and provides practical advice for intentional couples.

The Marriage Masterpiece by Al Janssen unveils the beauty of God’s design for every marriage.

Building Your Mate’s Self-Esteem by Dennis and Barbara Rainey shows why one of the most vital ingredients in a marriage today is to build one another’s self-esteem.

Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs discusses a powerful biblical model for each spouse understanding and meeting the other’s most deeply felt need.

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman describes how to discover and serve your spouse’s unique love language.

A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau is a guide to enjoying God’s gift of sexual intimacy.

Simply Romantic Nights Kit from Family Life Ministries shows intimacy in a new light using a series of his/her date night ideas.


First Christian Church Resources

First Christian Church offers a variety of Life Groups and other opportunities for you to learn, grow and connect in community with others who are in the same life season. Stop by the Welcome Center on Sunday to talk with someone who can help you get connected with other people and resources.

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